Wednesday, January 21, 2009

Overcome delayed ejaculation using the power of your mind

You know the scenario: Your partner has climaxed and now the pressure's on you to 'finish'. Some delay in ejaculating is fine - even desirable - but as minute follows minute… well we could all start filling in tax returns! For men who suffer from premature ejaculation or impotence the thought of not being able to ejaculate in the presence of a partner may seem like an impossible problem.
But men who can't ejaculate during intercourse or even during any sexual activity, can suffer such frustration, irritation and embarrassment that they maybe turned off sex altogether. Delayed ejaculation is a serious problem for many men.
Your sexual partner may feel that somehow you just don't find them attractive enough - causing further anxiety in turn leading to less likelihood of orgasm - the whole thing becomes a vicious cycle!
Most men experience delayed ejaculation occasionally, however if it has become a predictable pattern then it's time to get some help.
The causes of delayed ejaculation
It's vital that you know clearly the cause of your delayed ejaculation as it may be physical. Do you suffer from diabetes, allergies or high blood pressure? Are you on any medications for these conditions or for depression or anxiety? Antidepressants can cause delayed or even complete inability to achieve orgasm.
If this difficulty started at the same time as you started taking medication then get back to your doctor and see if you can substitute this medication for one with side effects that don't mess with your sex life. Prostate surgery can also influence the way you experience orgasm so if in doubt discuss this with your physician.
If the reason for delayed ejaculation is not physical
All kinds of factors can delay or even completely prevent ejaculation. There may be conscious or unconscious worries about pregnancy, or guilt about enjoying sex (this may have resulted from religious or family conditioning). There may be issues around intimacy or commitment.
Maybe you are tying too hard and the 'trying' gets in the way of the spontaneous enjoyment. This can happen when you totally focus on your partner's pleasure.
Imagine how it's going to feel to be totally absorbed and 'in the moment' with your partner when the fuse is lit and you 'get the fireworks'.
Hypnosis is the most powerful way to influence the mind/body connection, just imagine when you can delay orgasm for as little or as long as have so much more control when you climax. The main thing to remember, to avoid health problems need time to see a doctor, who will pick up your good health drugs.

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